A Ladies Curse

The trouble with being a woman these days is the constant scrutiny we are under for what we wear, how we act, what we eat, our weight, anything and everything people can think of.

Especially if you work in the media or entertainment industry when they focus heavily on these subjects.

We are not meant to be the same as everyone, we don’t have the same body shapes and we are not the same size.

People think that we should all be these skinny ladies with small bodies like you see in the magazines and posters but the fact is we aren’t.

Ladies let me tell you something even the models don’t look like that!!! They are photo shopped and made to look like they are perfect. The real truth is you are perfect just the way you are.

We are teaching future generations that you have to be this, when we should really be ourselves, and love the body we are in.

It has taken me a long time to be happy in my own skin and with who I am. I was made to feel like I wasn’t perfect and I wasn’t beautiful. I see now how incredibly wrong this is.

I am beautiful and ladies so are you. Doesn’t matter the size, skin colour, nationality or anything else, you are all incredibly gorgeous and amazing people and we should all be treated accordingly.

We shouldn’t be spreading hate to each other and calling each other names we should be empowering each other and being nice. Guys see this and think its ok for them to treat us like this because they see us doing it to each other and it’s not right.

Beauty is not just what’s on the outside it’s a number of things like what you are on the inside, your personality, your heart and soul, your smile, the eyes, so many things that make you beautiful and who you are.

Don’t let people ever make you question this.

My plea to the world media is... please don’t make ladies feel ashamed and talk about their weight, what they are wearing. Stop the negativity and bullying these women are gorgeous and deserve to be treated with more respect.

A lot of them are actually healthy and work out on a daily basis they just don’t like the small size ladies people expect and want them to look like.

How about these clothing lines make work out wear that all women can wear and not just go up to a certain size. In actual fact we do work out and want to work out (well a number of us) but we get laughed at or stared out because we are doing it and made to feel like crap because everyone is judging and laughing.

What you should really be doing is encouraging and supporting them.

I am not a size 10 and my body shape would never allow me to be that because it wouldn’t look right and I would look unhealthy. But I do eat healthy and work out when I can.

I’ve never been thin but when I work out I get addicted and I love the taste I get on the tip of my tongue, how my lungs feel and I love it and I feel good doing it and afterwards.

I have limitations with having incurable diseases that make it hard but I still try. In fact the past six months I’ve gone down two sizes and lost about 30kgs and I feel good and I am happy about it.

And yet I still get that constant reminder from people and looks that say I am nowhere near perfect. Which is not fair. I am trying my best and yes I am beautiful, no matter how you make me feel or what you say.

I will also remind you NO ONE is perfect. So stop making us feel like we have to be because it’s not possible and we are perfectly fine just the way we are.

Our True Heroes

The definition of a hero is a person noted for courageous acts or nobility of character. But who are our true heroes?

They are not those athletes we idolise and watch, cheer and celebrate and take every step and move with them. Our true heroes are those emergency services, military, vets, nurses, and our doctors. They are the ones that are on the front line and defending our lives every second, minute, hour, day, week, month and year. They are the ones trying to heal us and our loved ones including our pets.

My dad was a volunteer firefighter for over 17 years when we moved to Brisbane from Tasmania he retired from the service. I still know fireman working all around Tasmania and I know fireman in Brisbane as well. 

I personally know the sacrifices they make and how much work and dedication goes into doing the job. I also know firsthand the sacrifices that their family and friends make. The fear and the thought in the back of your mind ...  what if they don’t come home and what if something happens to them. These people are constantly on the front line, they go where you fear to be and or don’t want to be, they are the first responders. They see, hear and experience things that no one should. When you all leave your homes in a fire they are the ones that risk their own life and go in and try and save the homes, your possessions, your loved ones and your pets. 

Yes these people make the ultimate sacrifice... their own life. They put it on the line all the time, and yet they are treated with so much disrespect and harshness. They don’t get bravery awards and the gratitude and respect that they actually deserve and I for one am incredibly thankful and grateful for all that they do. THANK YOU.

Some may think that calling nurses, doctors and vets heroes is not right, said but I strongly disagree. Put it this way they are the ones that are in the surgeries trying to save lives and repair things that have been broken, smashed, pulled, have bullets and all kinds of things. They are working on our loved ones and trying to bring them back to us. Even if they are our pets some of them can be dangerous and you never know what an animal is going to do, is capable of doing in any one bit of time. 

Not only that but you see in the news so many times where our nurses and ambulance drivers are being attacked by people who are angry, under the influence, out of control of their own bodies. At the end of the day these people are just doing their job and they shouldn’t have to worry about being attacked or looking out for someone who is going to hurt them or anyone they are working with. 

A lot of our emergency services are made up from volunteers like our lifeguards. 

Let me put it this way, these people are mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, uncles, aunties, cousins and grandparents trying to make a difference in this world. They all have families at home waiting for them and the thing you should also remember these people could be one of your family. 

Don’t you wish they were all treated with decency and respect not abused, harassed, shot, killed or hurt? 

Yes I am aware that there are bad ones among them but I can guarantee that that is only a small number of them in the mix the rest are the good guys.

That Single Feeling

Why are you single? The commonly asked question that gets tossed around. It can be one of the most annoying questions to be asked. You see if I knew the answer I may not be single anymore I can’t tell you all the answers. 


I am not single by choice, but I also know I won’t settle for something or someone I don’t deserve. I deserve to be treated well and loved by someone for who I am and what I look like. Someone who will respect me and let me be who I am. 


I have kissed a lot of toads it’s time for me to meet my prince.


I used to be that person that wished for someone to make me happy and stop me from feeling all alone but now... I think if it happens, it happens, if not then,  I’m ok with that because I have finally got to that stage late in 2016 where I feel happy with just being me and I’m working on getting to the person I want to be.


I get that impression people look at me and feel sorry for me and want me to find someone. I don’t need that, it would be nice, don’t get me wrong but I don’t want to settle and I shouldn’t have to settle. 


When the time is right it will happen but I’m not going to wish on It, I'm just going to live my life and see what the future holds. 


People ask would you go on a dating show or Married at First Sight. I say NO! Here’s my thing, I’m a private person and see relationships between two people not the two people plus whoever is watching and commentating on it.


Married at First Sight is like a smack in the face for same sex marriage especially here in Australia where it’s illegal for them to get married and yet this show can go ahead. I also have a thing about marriage I think that it is sacred and should be treated as such. I know people cheat and I hate cheating, I don’t think it’s acceptable and I don’t want to be cheated on and/or be the person that’s with the cheater. 


If and when I get married I want it to be forever, I know things come up and it gets hard but you have to work on it. Sometimes divorce has to happen but I don’t want it to happen. 


Let’s talk the Bachelor/Bachelorette, I wouldn’t even be selected to go on the show even if I did try. They only have those model type ladies on the show and that is not me. I honestly think it should be open to all shapes and sizes. Let’s face it though people only want to see good looking people get together they don’t want to see a real size woman or a fat person try and find love or kiss. 

Even if they did I still wouldn’t go on the show or use dating sites. I have used them in the past and I’m not a big fan of them. I want to meet someone in person and get to know them that way. It’s just not for me and that’s ok.


It’s ok to be single and happy. When love happens it will happen until then I will wait.

Dont Judge me by my cover

You know that expression "don’t judge a book by a cover", well don’t judge me by mine.

I may not have the best looking exterior but it doesn’t define the person I am. It also doesn’t tell you the hidden struggles, what I have been through and my hidden features and talents.

You may have come into my life at a certain chapter but you haven’t seen or read my past chapters and you may never see my future chapters. I may be calm, cool and collected on the surface but what you don’t see is my legs kicking like crazy. You don't see the large rock holding me down that I am slowly trying to get rid of and stop my legs going crazy. 

You see even my cover can tell you a different story from what I am feeling on the inside or what I am going through. I can put a smile on my face and not feel happy.

I may not look like there is anything wrong with me and I have a perfect life but I can assure you I don’t, I do have it better than a lot of other people. You will not always see a disability on a person and we may have some good days but we have a lot of bad days and obstacles we have to go through daily.  Every day there are reminders things are not perfect but we have to make the best out of things.

I have Psoriatic Arthritis, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. There are days I feel 100% and then I get the reminder I can’t do everything I wanted to do. Not only that but my immune system has been taken down to where I can catch anything that is going around its those hidden things I have to think of when I am out and take precautions so I don’t get sick.  

Time and time again we see those people who attack someone who looks perfectly fine when they are using disability parking either by a note or confrontation. Don’t get me wrong I know that people use it and don’t have one and just think they are entitled to park wherever they want however, there are people who don’t have a visible disability that need to use it. Those with  heart problems, MS, Cystic Fibrosis, Arthritis and many more, you don’t need to be on crutches or in a wheelchair. 

I may not be a model / skinny person but I am passionate, polite, kind hearted, smart, beautiful, funny, talented, a writer, sweet natured kind of person. Yes I said beautiful because we all are, it doesn’t matter about your size, nationality, religion, height, skin type or colour. Believe me ladies you are all gorgeous don’t let anyone let you think differently.

I have been bullied all my life for not only the way I look but because I see the world a different way and that I am unique and it’s not easy to deal with but I took it and I am still the person I was from the start just a lot smarter, wiser and stronger than I was before.

We all deserve privacy

Why do we focus so heavily on the private lives of celebrities? I have always been told by my Mum, treat others the way you want to be treated and that's what I do.

If I see a celebrity out shopping or anything, I just let them be because they are entitled to do that and shouldn't have to worry about fans coming up all the time and getting selfies with them, as much as I would love to do that, I just don't feel that it is right and there is always a right place and time for things. I also would never do it if they had family with them, especially kids it's a no no. They work so hard and that's why they are in the position they are in now, so they hardly get time to spend with family and friends.


I have watched so many people just walk up to them and say can I have a selfie and just walk off and I think if I was that celebrity that would really bother me... come on, at least have a conversation with them. I just feel that it's really rude to do that.

If I was in the same situation as them I would want my privacy, my friends and family to be safe from the paparazzi and what not. If I had kids I would want them to have a childhood and not constantly on the radar of the gossip magazines. Even them criticizing the parents for their behavior it's completely wrong. Everyone raises their children their own way.

Until kids are at the age where they can make the decision themselves, then I think they should be left alone.

I actually feel sorry for celebrities. Am I the only one? So many people take their privacy for granted, I mean, how would you like it being constantly under a microscope?

Yes we love them and we want to know who they are and what they like and everything but there is a point to where it's an overkill and it's really no ones business but theirs.

Take Dr Chris Brown aka Bondi Vet / or CBS Dr Chris Pet Vet for example. He is always being talked about but not for the reasons he should be. It is always about, is he single, dating or who's the girl he is with.

As much as I love and admire Chris, he deserves to be happy. He also deserves more respect. A lot of women just see him as eye candy or a piece of meat because of the way he looks and that's no fair. Looks aren't everything and there are so many things people should be looking at or for than just that. Chris is a lot more than that. He has so many qualities that make him so amazing.

Chris is funny, incredibly smart and gifted, honest, family orientated, respectful, loving, talented and an incredible vet. He has this incredible smile that can light up a room, an amazingly beautiful soul, a goofball, supportive, sweet, charming, well mannered, passionate, hardworking, devoted, professional, admirable, entertaining, fun, focused and so much more.

Some people just think he is shallow and judgmental and would only date perfect looking model kind of women. But I don't think he is and if he was it would surprise me, mind you I think very highly of him and have him on a big pedestal.

The Project incident regarding Chris singing "I want to know what love is" to a bachelor contestant that left the show, the next day and even after it happened, it went crazy... is he single and all about him having a crack.

Firstly I say good on him for having a go. Secondly I don't know how she didn't know that song. Lastly if he is single then that's ok and if he is dating someone then that's ok as well.

Shouldn't you want them to be happy? So many times I have seen people say oh I hate this person because they are dating my future husband or wife and or just don't like them or talk rubbish about them because of it. Honestly people need to get over it and let them be happy.

Another thing, people are entitled to have their own opinions or views on subjects. Just because you don't agree on that one comment or something, doesn't mean that you should hate them because of it or disrespect them, message them with disgust or say you don't like them anymore. You are not always going to agree with everything and everyone, that's life.

I honestly have to question a lot of gossip columns and magazines and articles lately. First off not everything you read is true but some people think that it's written so it must be true. It's not!!

If someone is getting divorced, give them space. Don't create stories about cheating and stories that aren't true. Just let them get on with things and sort things out. They don't need the added stress.

Something that caught my eye the other day was an article on Sunrise co-host Samantha Armatage wearing big underwear. Correct me if I am wrong but what the hell?? I mean come on! Are you seriously going to go so low to write and publish that? Honestly, get a life.

It's disgusting and women are always getting targeted on either their weight, what they are wearing, what they are eating and everything else. Nothing is off limits to them.

Come on people get over it. We can be as big as we want, wear what we want. We shouldn't constantly be under a microscope. I really feel for these women.

It's not newsworthy. Stop the constant crap of bad journalism and focus on things that need to be told. Not the constant harassment and intrusion into their lives.

Paparazzi are another thing. I understand they have jobs to do but come on. You literally take things to the extreme and go well and beyond the privacy boundaries.

If I was in that situation it would really annoy me and no wonder they get so annoyed and angry.
You can't even pick a wedgie or your nose without being captured and it's not fair on them.

Choose Love not hate

Why do we give “hate” so much time? Hate is such a strong word and it’s being spread around the world so much these days. Why are we giving it so much power? We give it so much fuel, that the terrorists, evildoers & careless people love it and they feed on it. They want you to live in fear, be angry and sad. It’s what they want you to do. They want to see people start spreading more hate. When what we should really be doing is spreading love and not living in fear, rather than thinking that I could be killed today by some act of evil hatred. Love is powerful and the world coming together. Not living with hate would really annoy them.

But media have a lot to do with this as well. We want to know & rely on the news, but by giving these people air time and labelling the terrorist with a religion and giving them a face, leads them to having power. Not every Muslim is a terrorist. It’s just like saying all Australians are racist which is simply not true. Unless you meet and judge every single Australian, which is near impossible, the most you can say is “oh, that Australian is a racist” or “those Australians” were. It really annoys me when people do this.

I have been watching what is going on in the US right now and I am disgusted. The day after Trump gets elected as the President, so many things started to happen. A lady’s burka got taken off by another lady and said this is not allowed anymore. So much graffiti all over many places with the swastika on it. KKK white power movement is strong.  So many horrifying things are going on. I ask the question, “What’s going to happen if this keeps on going?”

I have also read that someone has told Jewish people that the train is coming for them and that they are going to get gassed. This is disgusting! It makes me feel sick and sad that people are doing this. Our leaders need to start taking a stand and declaring “This is not right and that it needs to stop now!” Trump, I am looking at you and telling you right now, that as the leader, you need to set an example for your country and tell them to stop the hate. America needs to come together and live as one and to make the US a better place.

I feel so sad, that all I want to do is cry that so much hate can pick up within the space of a couple of weeks. No-one wants to see another war, nor another leader like Hitler who hates anyone that is different and not a white person. My heart breaks for those people who are different and now live in fear.

I know what it is like to be judged harshly, to go home every day in tears because not only am I a big person, but I have always been different. I have looked at the world in a different way. I see things a lot different to everyone else. I’m also in the lower income range and I have two incurable diseases which puts me into the disability range. How would I go if I was in the US right now after reading what trump stood for? I know he has changed some of his policies from before the election and I hope it stays that way. Donald I hope that you don’t discriminate, build a wall or continue letting this hate happen.

My bullies had power and they knew it. It’s funny how that now I’m an adult, not one of them have come to me and said sorry. In fact they’re still those kind of people that continue to laugh and whisper whenever they see me. You would have hoped that these people would have grown up to be different people by now, but they have not.

To the world leaders, please don’t allow this hate to happen and spread further than it already has reached and become a world war. You have all our lives in your hands and I would like to know that you will stand up to this kind of hate too and not make us go to war if it gets that bad because of it.

To the Australian Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull and the Australian government, please legalise same sex marriage. 95% of Australia want this to happen. This leaves 5%, but I would say it’s a lot less than that, who don’t want this to happen. It needs to happen especially now that hate is at its worst. We need to come together here in Australia and look out for our own. This would be a step in the right direction for Australia. I am all about leaving a long lasting legacy. John Howard will always have the gun law legacy and he made one of the best decisions the Australian government has ever made. Now it’s time for you to do the same thing and change these laws. Don’t ask us to vote for it, just change it!

Yes the gun laws have worked in a lot of positive ways but the fact is our domestic violence and sexual assault are still alarmingly high and we need to change this fast. There’s a reason women don’t do anything or say anything because we are afraid to speak up which causes so many people to get away with it. Donald Trump is one prime example of this. He got elected when so many women made claims about it and whether these stories are true or not, it really needs to be investigated. Those comments he made were disgusting. I really hope he doesn’t believe that he has the right to grab any women he likes and do that. It sends out a signal, letting men think they can actually get away with this but it’s not ok. It’s never ok to do this. And if you are in this mind set, please think of your own children, daughters, partners, sisters, mothers, aunts and cousins because these are the people you are saying that this is ok to do this to. I hope that every woman and little girls growing up know that they have a voice and they have the freedom to say “NO!” They have the right to say NO and a choice to change their minds to NO. NO means NO.

I am standing up for those who can’t and those who are in fear of speaking up. I am lucky to be a woman in a country that allows me to vote, have a voice and freedom of speech. There are so many women around the world that don’t have the same rights as us and I am standing up for them.
As a woman I will stand up and say we want to be able to live without the fear of being attacked or raped. We don’t want to be objectified and treated like we are a piece of meat. We want to be treated equally in all aspects of life.

If we weren’t meant to be gay, straight, black, white, any religion, have our own appearance or be different, we wouldn’t have been born the way we are. We were all born to be different. For a long time I thought being different and unique was wrong and a bad thing, but now I embrace it and I love it. I know that I will always be my own person and not be a follower. I beat to my own drum, I have my own belief and voice. I stand up for what I believe in and I like what I like and I am not going to let anyone change that. If I want to change my views it will be my choice.

If you feel that you need a boost and a reminder of this, watch Roman Atwood vlogs on YouTube. He always ends with you are beautiful, one of a kind, you are unique, SMILE MORE. I love this… His brand is “Smile More”. They want you to smile more and be positive and good. Another YouTuber worth watching is Lilly Singh (aka iisuperwomanii). She has started the Girl Love Movement which I find amazing and needs to happen. It’s about spreading love to girls and not hating on each other and just being nasty, mean and name calling.

My friend Casey Barnes has a song called Live As One which he co-wrote with Rick Price and this song is in need right now. We all need to start living as one and getting along. One of the main reasons I love being Australian and living in Australia is that it’s multi-cultured. We get to live in a nation that has so many different cultures that we can explore and experience and yet a lot of people won’t do it. They refuse to do it. Get out and learn and experience it because most of you just judge and don’t understand or simply don’t want to and you are missing out on a lot.

No one was born a racist or judgemental. It comes from our upbringing, our cultures, religions, what we watch on TV (news, TV shows and movies), video games and people around us. The thing people need to remember is that kids hear and see things they shouldn’t. They are always watching and listening, even though you don’t think they are and they pick up on it. They then think that it’s ok to do and say those things because they heard you say it or saw you do it.

At the end of the day you always have a choice, yes or no, up or down, left or right, give up or don’t give up, get back up or don’t get back up, spread love or hate, be positive or negative, live in fear or contentment and many more. I chose not to hate. I could be that person with what I have personally been through but I would rather spread love and be a better person. I can see how people get to a point where they can’t go on anymore and end their life or give up and I can see how people have had enough and think that violence and or shooting people is an option, but I don’t think it’s ever an option. I would never do something like that. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

My message to the world is stop making people feel less than they, undervalued, unloved and not worthy of life. Bring back the love and spread it. We have the rest of our lives to live and I would rather live in harmony than a world full of hate, negativity and wars.

We have a responsibility to the future generations to make this world a better place for them, make sure we keep the world turning and keep our loved ones safe. We also have the responsibility to make sure our environment is kept clean. The world’s animals don’t have a voice, but they need to be taken care of and not beaten or killed for no reason. It sickens me seeing on the news, so many innocent animal’s lives are being taken. Kicked & abused for the sake of it, left for dead on the sides of the roads.

Again I call out to the Australian government to make sure that all of our animals, especially our native animals, are taken good care of. More funding needs to be allocated towards the breeding and wellbeing of our koalas, kangaroos, wombats, Tasmanian devils and so many more. The last thing we want to see is these animals becoming extinct.

To conclude, I request the same goes for the Great Barrier Reef. We need to take action and stop the damage that is being done to it and try and fix it, otherwise it might be too late and we will have totally destroyed this magical wonder for our future generations and our world’s visitors. I can’t imagine Australia without our incredible reef or our lovable animals. These are some of the many wonderful reasons why tourists visit Australia and as well as it being very important to our economy and our country, it is equally as important to us as responsible Australians.