A Ladies Curse

The trouble with being a woman these days is the constant scrutiny we are under for what we wear, how we act, what we eat, our weight, anything and everything people can think of.

Especially if you work in the media or entertainment industry when they focus heavily on these subjects.

We are not meant to be the same as everyone, we don’t have the same body shapes and we are not the same size.

People think that we should all be these skinny ladies with small bodies like you see in the magazines and posters but the fact is we aren’t.

Ladies let me tell you something even the models don’t look like that!!! They are photo shopped and made to look like they are perfect. The real truth is you are perfect just the way you are.

We are teaching future generations that you have to be this, when we should really be ourselves, and love the body we are in.

It has taken me a long time to be happy in my own skin and with who I am. I was made to feel like I wasn’t perfect and I wasn’t beautiful. I see now how incredibly wrong this is.

I am beautiful and ladies so are you. Doesn’t matter the size, skin colour, nationality or anything else, you are all incredibly gorgeous and amazing people and we should all be treated accordingly.

We shouldn’t be spreading hate to each other and calling each other names we should be empowering each other and being nice. Guys see this and think its ok for them to treat us like this because they see us doing it to each other and it’s not right.

Beauty is not just what’s on the outside it’s a number of things like what you are on the inside, your personality, your heart and soul, your smile, the eyes, so many things that make you beautiful and who you are.

Don’t let people ever make you question this.

My plea to the world media is... please don’t make ladies feel ashamed and talk about their weight, what they are wearing. Stop the negativity and bullying these women are gorgeous and deserve to be treated with more respect.

A lot of them are actually healthy and work out on a daily basis they just don’t like the small size ladies people expect and want them to look like.

How about these clothing lines make work out wear that all women can wear and not just go up to a certain size. In actual fact we do work out and want to work out (well a number of us) but we get laughed at or stared out because we are doing it and made to feel like crap because everyone is judging and laughing.

What you should really be doing is encouraging and supporting them.

I am not a size 10 and my body shape would never allow me to be that because it wouldn’t look right and I would look unhealthy. But I do eat healthy and work out when I can.

I’ve never been thin but when I work out I get addicted and I love the taste I get on the tip of my tongue, how my lungs feel and I love it and I feel good doing it and afterwards.

I have limitations with having incurable diseases that make it hard but I still try. In fact the past six months I’ve gone down two sizes and lost about 30kgs and I feel good and I am happy about it.

And yet I still get that constant reminder from people and looks that say I am nowhere near perfect. Which is not fair. I am trying my best and yes I am beautiful, no matter how you make me feel or what you say.

I will also remind you NO ONE is perfect. So stop making us feel like we have to be because it’s not possible and we are perfectly fine just the way we are.