A Ladies Curse

The trouble with being a woman these days is the constant scrutiny we are under for what we wear, how we act, what we eat, our weight, anything and everything people can think of.

Especially if you work in the media or entertainment industry when they focus heavily on these subjects.

We are not meant to be the same as everyone, we don’t have the same body shapes and we are not the same size.

People think that we should all be these skinny ladies with small bodies like you see in the magazines and posters but the fact is we aren’t.

Ladies let me tell you something even the models don’t look like that!!! They are photo shopped and made to look like they are perfect. The real truth is you are perfect just the way you are.

We are teaching future generations that you have to be this, when we should really be ourselves, and love the body we are in.

It has taken me a long time to be happy in my own skin and with who I am. I was made to feel like I wasn’t perfect and I wasn’t beautiful. I see now how incredibly wrong this is.

I am beautiful and ladies so are you. Doesn’t matter the size, skin colour, nationality or anything else, you are all incredibly gorgeous and amazing people and we should all be treated accordingly.

We shouldn’t be spreading hate to each other and calling each other names we should be empowering each other and being nice. Guys see this and think its ok for them to treat us like this because they see us doing it to each other and it’s not right.

Beauty is not just what’s on the outside it’s a number of things like what you are on the inside, your personality, your heart and soul, your smile, the eyes, so many things that make you beautiful and who you are.

Don’t let people ever make you question this.

My plea to the world media is... please don’t make ladies feel ashamed and talk about their weight, what they are wearing. Stop the negativity and bullying these women are gorgeous and deserve to be treated with more respect.

A lot of them are actually healthy and work out on a daily basis they just don’t like the small size ladies people expect and want them to look like.

How about these clothing lines make work out wear that all women can wear and not just go up to a certain size. In actual fact we do work out and want to work out (well a number of us) but we get laughed at or stared out because we are doing it and made to feel like crap because everyone is judging and laughing.

What you should really be doing is encouraging and supporting them.

I am not a size 10 and my body shape would never allow me to be that because it wouldn’t look right and I would look unhealthy. But I do eat healthy and work out when I can.

I’ve never been thin but when I work out I get addicted and I love the taste I get on the tip of my tongue, how my lungs feel and I love it and I feel good doing it and afterwards.

I have limitations with having incurable diseases that make it hard but I still try. In fact the past six months I’ve gone down two sizes and lost about 30kgs and I feel good and I am happy about it.

And yet I still get that constant reminder from people and looks that say I am nowhere near perfect. Which is not fair. I am trying my best and yes I am beautiful, no matter how you make me feel or what you say.

I will also remind you NO ONE is perfect. So stop making us feel like we have to be because it’s not possible and we are perfectly fine just the way we are.

Our True Heroes

The definition of a hero is a person noted for courageous acts or nobility of character. But who are our true heroes?

They are not those athletes we idolise and watch, cheer and celebrate and take every step and move with them. Our true heroes are those emergency services, military, vets, nurses, and our doctors. They are the ones that are on the front line and defending our lives every second, minute, hour, day, week, month and year. They are the ones trying to heal us and our loved ones including our pets.

My dad was a volunteer firefighter for over 17 years when we moved to Brisbane from Tasmania he retired from the service. I still know fireman working all around Tasmania and I know fireman in Brisbane as well. 

I personally know the sacrifices they make and how much work and dedication goes into doing the job. I also know firsthand the sacrifices that their family and friends make. The fear and the thought in the back of your mind ...  what if they don’t come home and what if something happens to them. These people are constantly on the front line, they go where you fear to be and or don’t want to be, they are the first responders. They see, hear and experience things that no one should. When you all leave your homes in a fire they are the ones that risk their own life and go in and try and save the homes, your possessions, your loved ones and your pets. 

Yes these people make the ultimate sacrifice... their own life. They put it on the line all the time, and yet they are treated with so much disrespect and harshness. They don’t get bravery awards and the gratitude and respect that they actually deserve and I for one am incredibly thankful and grateful for all that they do. THANK YOU.

Some may think that calling nurses, doctors and vets heroes is not right, said but I strongly disagree. Put it this way they are the ones that are in the surgeries trying to save lives and repair things that have been broken, smashed, pulled, have bullets and all kinds of things. They are working on our loved ones and trying to bring them back to us. Even if they are our pets some of them can be dangerous and you never know what an animal is going to do, is capable of doing in any one bit of time. 

Not only that but you see in the news so many times where our nurses and ambulance drivers are being attacked by people who are angry, under the influence, out of control of their own bodies. At the end of the day these people are just doing their job and they shouldn’t have to worry about being attacked or looking out for someone who is going to hurt them or anyone they are working with. 

A lot of our emergency services are made up from volunteers like our lifeguards. 

Let me put it this way, these people are mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, uncles, aunties, cousins and grandparents trying to make a difference in this world. They all have families at home waiting for them and the thing you should also remember these people could be one of your family. 

Don’t you wish they were all treated with decency and respect not abused, harassed, shot, killed or hurt? 

Yes I am aware that there are bad ones among them but I can guarantee that that is only a small number of them in the mix the rest are the good guys.

That Single Feeling

Why are you single? The commonly asked question that gets tossed around. It can be one of the most annoying questions to be asked. You see if I knew the answer I may not be single anymore I can’t tell you all the answers. 


I am not single by choice, but I also know I won’t settle for something or someone I don’t deserve. I deserve to be treated well and loved by someone for who I am and what I look like. Someone who will respect me and let me be who I am. 


I have kissed a lot of toads it’s time for me to meet my prince.


I used to be that person that wished for someone to make me happy and stop me from feeling all alone but now... I think if it happens, it happens, if not then,  I’m ok with that because I have finally got to that stage late in 2016 where I feel happy with just being me and I’m working on getting to the person I want to be.


I get that impression people look at me and feel sorry for me and want me to find someone. I don’t need that, it would be nice, don’t get me wrong but I don’t want to settle and I shouldn’t have to settle. 


When the time is right it will happen but I’m not going to wish on It, I'm just going to live my life and see what the future holds. 


People ask would you go on a dating show or Married at First Sight. I say NO! Here’s my thing, I’m a private person and see relationships between two people not the two people plus whoever is watching and commentating on it.


Married at First Sight is like a smack in the face for same sex marriage especially here in Australia where it’s illegal for them to get married and yet this show can go ahead. I also have a thing about marriage I think that it is sacred and should be treated as such. I know people cheat and I hate cheating, I don’t think it’s acceptable and I don’t want to be cheated on and/or be the person that’s with the cheater. 


If and when I get married I want it to be forever, I know things come up and it gets hard but you have to work on it. Sometimes divorce has to happen but I don’t want it to happen. 


Let’s talk the Bachelor/Bachelorette, I wouldn’t even be selected to go on the show even if I did try. They only have those model type ladies on the show and that is not me. I honestly think it should be open to all shapes and sizes. Let’s face it though people only want to see good looking people get together they don’t want to see a real size woman or a fat person try and find love or kiss. 

Even if they did I still wouldn’t go on the show or use dating sites. I have used them in the past and I’m not a big fan of them. I want to meet someone in person and get to know them that way. It’s just not for me and that’s ok.


It’s ok to be single and happy. When love happens it will happen until then I will wait.

Dont Judge me by my cover

You know that expression "don’t judge a book by a cover", well don’t judge me by mine.

I may not have the best looking exterior but it doesn’t define the person I am. It also doesn’t tell you the hidden struggles, what I have been through and my hidden features and talents.

You may have come into my life at a certain chapter but you haven’t seen or read my past chapters and you may never see my future chapters. I may be calm, cool and collected on the surface but what you don’t see is my legs kicking like crazy. You don't see the large rock holding me down that I am slowly trying to get rid of and stop my legs going crazy. 

You see even my cover can tell you a different story from what I am feeling on the inside or what I am going through. I can put a smile on my face and not feel happy.

I may not look like there is anything wrong with me and I have a perfect life but I can assure you I don’t, I do have it better than a lot of other people. You will not always see a disability on a person and we may have some good days but we have a lot of bad days and obstacles we have to go through daily.  Every day there are reminders things are not perfect but we have to make the best out of things.

I have Psoriatic Arthritis, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. There are days I feel 100% and then I get the reminder I can’t do everything I wanted to do. Not only that but my immune system has been taken down to where I can catch anything that is going around its those hidden things I have to think of when I am out and take precautions so I don’t get sick.  

Time and time again we see those people who attack someone who looks perfectly fine when they are using disability parking either by a note or confrontation. Don’t get me wrong I know that people use it and don’t have one and just think they are entitled to park wherever they want however, there are people who don’t have a visible disability that need to use it. Those with  heart problems, MS, Cystic Fibrosis, Arthritis and many more, you don’t need to be on crutches or in a wheelchair. 

I may not be a model / skinny person but I am passionate, polite, kind hearted, smart, beautiful, funny, talented, a writer, sweet natured kind of person. Yes I said beautiful because we all are, it doesn’t matter about your size, nationality, religion, height, skin type or colour. Believe me ladies you are all gorgeous don’t let anyone let you think differently.

I have been bullied all my life for not only the way I look but because I see the world a different way and that I am unique and it’s not easy to deal with but I took it and I am still the person I was from the start just a lot smarter, wiser and stronger than I was before.